» ARE INFJS DESTINED TO HAVE FAILED RELATIONSHIPS?
Much has been written about how hard it is for INFJs to have a happy marriage or to find a life partner with whom they feel deep and lasting contentment.
This gives the wrong impression about INFJs. I am an INFJ. I am happily married. I have been married to the same man for many years and I am still in love.
It is important to maintain a balanced perspective on our potential to have a happy and fulfilling marriage or partnership and to be loved, accepted and understood.
Why do people suggest INFJs find it hard to find the perfect partner?
I wonder if the people who write about failed and unhappy relationships and the inevitability of this for INFJs are those who have had failed relationships.
Maybe those of us who are happy and have an enduring companionship don't bother to let everyone know, we are too busy being together and in love!
» IS THE DIVORCE RATE ANY HIGHER FOR INFJS THAN OTHER TYPES?
I don't know of any statistical data that has been collected on the frequency with which INFJs get divorced.
Nor has there been, to my knowledge, any comparative studies across all the types to indicate that one personality type gets divorced more than another.
Instead divorce rates are high in many countries, including the USA, Australia and Great Britain.
What hope is there for an INFJ marriage?
If you are longing to have a happy marriage it is important that you don't believe the hearsay or that the failure rate applies to you. INFJs can have a happy marriage with a soulmate, believe that for yourself.
A happy marriage depends on many things and a great deal of it falls under your control. Asking yourself the right questions and reflecting on your own behaviours, thoughts and values is a great place to begin.
For example, have you picked the right person? Have you applied your type knowledge to your relationship? Are you tolerant enough? Are you willing to openly share your feelings? Do you communicate clearly? Have you plunged into INFJ hinting? Do you have expectations of a perfect partner which no human can achieve? Are you working to stay positive or are you letting little niggles become enormous mountains of discontent?
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What can INFJs do to find and sustain a happy marriage?
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- INFJs can make ideal partners and with the right knowledge and techniques can safeguard their relationships from attack so that love lingers long. Cupid is still alive and well on Planet INFJ.
» HOW TO MAKE YOUR INFJ MARRIAGE SUCCEED.
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