» THE DESPAIR OF A LONELY INFJ.
Do INFJs have so many social and relationship problems that all is lost for us? Should we all, as INFJs, just give up? It is easy to think so, from the kinds of articles and posts that appear on social media about INFJs. Sometimes I despair reading them.
Why are the descriptions so gloomy? It is partly because social media platforms attract the types of INFJs who have problems or who like talking about their problems so they can bond with other INFJs who do the same. It means we get a distorted view of life as an INFJ.
Depression, anxiety, loneliness or severe forms of shyness or social isolation, doubt and uncertainty, are often attributed to INFJs. I do not recognise myself in these extreme descriptions, yet I too am an INFJ.
Being an INFJ does not mean we are socially inept or lonely.
The negative stereotypes about our INFJ personality type suggests we are all socially inept, lost in absorbed feelings, over-sensitive and unable to stand up for ourselves. Some even suggest INFJs will always fail at long-term relationships and never be able to find sustaining happiness. How grim it all seems for INFJs!
I read a question recently that implied INFJs are on the autism spectrum. What? This is false news. If an INFJ is on the autism spectrum it is not because they're an INFJ, it's because they're autistic. They're not the same.
But fanciful and ferocious descriptions of INFJ problems crush our exceptional potential for positive lives. We all deserve one. A positive, fulfilled and happy life is ours to take and make.
» LONELY? DEPRESSED? ANXIOUS? HOW INFJS CAN FEEL POSITIVE.
Take heart, there is abundant and real proof that INFJs can be happy and content and accomplish much in their careers and lives. Never let others, whether your doctor, boss, or family take hope away from you.
Those INFJs who are happy, healthy and in fulfilling careers are having a good time. They are climbing their career ladders, building their relationships and bringing their positive visions to the world. INFJs can be very successful. "Planet INFJ" proves it. Some INFJs are very content, socially skilled, enjoying rewarding relationships, feeling fulfilled, having a happy sex life, and being, by all definitions, successful.
Feeling lost at work? What do INFJs need for career success?
There is a broad range of different careers at which INFJs succeed, although being in the right working environment matters.
I am a typical INFJ and I like a peaceful environment in which to work. Far from being lonely I thrive on being alone. If Extraverts look in on my world they may think there's something wrong with me, but there isn't. I enjoy my own company and can sit in my study working quietly for hours on end, and enjoying it.
I don't stay alone all the time, as after my periods of solitude I go back to re-engage with people and the world. It means, though, that my career needs to provide me with periods of peace.
Planet INFJ: The Book
As a stressed and lonely INFJ, how can I escape and live a balanced life?
"Planet INFJ" brings you concrete evidence of the extraordinary success INFJs have attained and how they achieved it, so other INFJs can find ways out of loneliness and stress. Success, happiness and health, in all aspects of our lives, is our birth-right and the INFJ stories in the book prove it.
- Feeling stressed? Take hope. A successful INFJ can stay emotionally, physically and spiritually well. "Planet INFJ" targets this very topic so that the causes of stress and loneliness in INFJs become clear. A whole chapter, Chapter 13, is devoted to "Understanding what makes an INFJ stressed and why".
- "Planet INFJ" goes a vital step beyond the causes of stress and loneliness to examine closely, in chapter 14, how INFJs can have a healthy body, mind, spirit and psyche. I am passionate about staying healthy and share with you the steps I take to achieve this and even explain how I returned to full health after a serious illness. There is much that each of us can do to maintain a healthy and balanced life and "Planet INFJ" makes sure INFJs know what is genuinely possible.
» HOPELESSNESS AND LONELINESS KILL THE INFJ'S SOUL; SUCCESS LETS IT SOAR. WHICH ONE WILL YOU CHOOSE?
Authenticity is the core value of INFJs; come join us on Planet INFJ, where authenticity reigns.